To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
--Joseph Chilton Pearce
About Me
- Carol Fitzgerald Tyler
- I lost 103 pounds without surgery, and there was great rejoicing! However - over the last year and a half, life got in the way. Between serious bouts of fibromyalgia and debilitating migraines, I gained some weight, and found myself feeling dumpy, frumpy, and most definately in a slump. 2012 is over and the time has come to dump that frump slump, release the excess weight, change my attitude, and be and feel fabulous! This journey is about more than just weight loss. It is about facing and releasing all things that hold us back from living life to the fullest each and every day. Make the most of what you have, and live a "seize the moment" lifestyle. Join me on my journey, and dump your own slumps - whatever they may be. Welcome to Fabulous!
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Friday, March 18, 2011
Inspiration is Everywhere - Meredith's Story
As part of working with the American Cancer Society DetermiNation program, I have the opportunity to write articles about some of the runners and walkers that will be raising money and awareness in the Denver Rock N Roll Marathon and Half Marathon taking place in October 2011. This week, I had the good fortune to interview Meredith Meegan. She is dedicated to helping cure cancer to honor her mother, whose battle with a brain tumor ended sixteen years ago. Meredith has big plans - and has provided big inspiration. I'm honored to tell her story.
Meredith Meegan: Mother, Runner, and DetermiNation Warrior
By Carol Fitzgerald Tyler
Passion, determination and strength are words that describe Meredith Meegan. After talking with Meredith, her intense commitment to advocate for curing cancer is evident from the moment the conversation began. The loss of her mother to an aggressive brain tumor is the driving force behind her running and her charitable contributions.
Currently in rehabilitation for a tendonitis issue, Meredith is taking a break from running and is focusing on healing. Not running is challenging for her, as she typically averages between 35 and 40 miles a week. She is “trying to see the big picture” and believes that a course in physical therapy will make her even stronger than before. “Running is something that simply just clicks with my body and mind”, she says. Her family thinks she is somewhat “obsessed” and “insane”, however, she claims “it’s just what works for me. Running changes your mental make-up, you need more and more and more.”
Meredith’s running actually began when her mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor sixteen years ago. She started by going to the gym with her mother, who she describes as a positive well-minded individual. She began by running for two minutes, which was extremely difficult at the time. She stayed home for a year caring for her mother, and ran the entire time. Little by little she increased her time to thirty minutes. She also started participating in 5K’s and then worked up to longer distances.
Meredith describes her relationship with her mother as “amazing”. She can’t say enough about her, and said that there will never be anyone quite like her. She describes her mother’s absence as defining her as much as her presence ever did. As difficult as her loss was then, her mother is still a part of her daily thoughts, and like any other muscle, she works on the grief muscles. “The grief muscle keeps getting stronger. I know it will knock me down, but I can still get back up.” Sometimes she thinks that the grief mode has a purpose to continue and connect her with her mother, and that it is a fundamental part of who she is.
Meredith’s mother passed away at age 55, three months before her wedding. Meredith shopped for wedding and funeral flowers at the same time knowing that her mother’s passing was close. The toasts at her wedding were both congratulatory to her and her husband, but also had a eulogy quality for those who were unable to attend her mother’s funeral.
With strength and conviction, Meredith has moved to using her grief to work towards helping others in the fight against cancer. “When you lose someone that close to you, it’s like you lose a limb. But you must realize that even with that missing limb, you can still walk, you can still run. You find other ways to compensate for it. ”
With three children under the age of ten (6, 8, and 10), finding time for running and self-care isn’t always easy. Luckily, Meredith is a self-proclaimed morning person and is often the first one to enter the gym at 5:00 a.m. Taking care of the care giver is an important concept and her early morning trips to the treadmill provide time to run and mentally prepare for the day ahead.
A veteran of three full marathons and one half marathon, her first experience was the New York City Marathon in 2000. Participating for the Fred’s Team charity which benefits Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, she and her husband were fortunate enough to win the marathon entry lottery. During that marathon, Meredith was able to see her elderly grandmother as she raced near her apartment. Given the number of people who are spectators – it was a gift to be able to share a hug as she ran by. Meredith has also participated in the Chicago Marathon and the Phoenix Rock N Roll Marathon.
Even though Meredith has long been a major advocate for curing cancer, her involvement with the Denver ACS DetermiNation program happened by pure coincidence. She was leaving the gym a few months ago after what she describes as a “good and satisfying run”, and she saw Stacey Hicks at the DetermiNation table. After just a short time of talking over the program, she made the instant decision to “do this”. “I am a fairly impulsive person, and the program hit on my passion from the get go” she said. “I don’t just want to be involved but I want to be uber involved.” She will be participating in the full Denver marathon and is determined to work through her current course of physical therapy to do just that.
Meredith doesn’t see any barriers raising the funds for the program. When it comes to cancer and honoring her mother’s legacy, asking for contributions to help cure the disease is simple. Her friends and family have been more than generous and helpful in the past, particularly while raising approximately $2,500 for Fred’s Team at the New York City Marathon in 2000. She believes she will hit her goal of at least $1,250 and likely more as she embarks on her fundraising campaign for Denver in the next week or so.
When talking about her goals for the Denver DetermiNation program and for the marathon event, she would love to see the marathon grow in both the number of participants and in stature. Having the Denver Rock N Roll Full and Half marathons become a marquee event for Denver would be great for both the city and the program.
When describing why she is committed to the DetermiNation program, she said “the cause needs money and attention. Such empowerment, compassion, and energy occurs in those who have come together and have chosen to fight this battle. No two cancers are alike, there is something uniquely bonding about dealing with that”.
Meredith can’t wait to complete her physical therapy and get back to running. When asked what her goals are? She says, “to be a life- long runner and life- long warrior in the battle to end cancer in the world”. All of us at DetermiNation can’t wait to welcome Meredith. Her passionate drive to cure cancer goes hand in hand with her determination to cross the finish line at the Denver Marathon in October.
For questions on the American Cancer Society DetermiNation program – please contact:
Valerie Passerini
Endurance Event Manager - DetermiNation
American Cancer Society, Inc. - Great West Division
2255 South Oneida Street Denver, CO 80224
720.524.5410
Meredith Meegan: Mother, Runner, and DetermiNation Warrior
By Carol Fitzgerald Tyler
Passion, determination and strength are words that describe Meredith Meegan. After talking with Meredith, her intense commitment to advocate for curing cancer is evident from the moment the conversation began. The loss of her mother to an aggressive brain tumor is the driving force behind her running and her charitable contributions.
Currently in rehabilitation for a tendonitis issue, Meredith is taking a break from running and is focusing on healing. Not running is challenging for her, as she typically averages between 35 and 40 miles a week. She is “trying to see the big picture” and believes that a course in physical therapy will make her even stronger than before. “Running is something that simply just clicks with my body and mind”, she says. Her family thinks she is somewhat “obsessed” and “insane”, however, she claims “it’s just what works for me. Running changes your mental make-up, you need more and more and more.”
Meredith’s running actually began when her mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor sixteen years ago. She started by going to the gym with her mother, who she describes as a positive well-minded individual. She began by running for two minutes, which was extremely difficult at the time. She stayed home for a year caring for her mother, and ran the entire time. Little by little she increased her time to thirty minutes. She also started participating in 5K’s and then worked up to longer distances.
Meredith describes her relationship with her mother as “amazing”. She can’t say enough about her, and said that there will never be anyone quite like her. She describes her mother’s absence as defining her as much as her presence ever did. As difficult as her loss was then, her mother is still a part of her daily thoughts, and like any other muscle, she works on the grief muscles. “The grief muscle keeps getting stronger. I know it will knock me down, but I can still get back up.” Sometimes she thinks that the grief mode has a purpose to continue and connect her with her mother, and that it is a fundamental part of who she is.
Meredith’s mother passed away at age 55, three months before her wedding. Meredith shopped for wedding and funeral flowers at the same time knowing that her mother’s passing was close. The toasts at her wedding were both congratulatory to her and her husband, but also had a eulogy quality for those who were unable to attend her mother’s funeral.
With strength and conviction, Meredith has moved to using her grief to work towards helping others in the fight against cancer. “When you lose someone that close to you, it’s like you lose a limb. But you must realize that even with that missing limb, you can still walk, you can still run. You find other ways to compensate for it. ”
With three children under the age of ten (6, 8, and 10), finding time for running and self-care isn’t always easy. Luckily, Meredith is a self-proclaimed morning person and is often the first one to enter the gym at 5:00 a.m. Taking care of the care giver is an important concept and her early morning trips to the treadmill provide time to run and mentally prepare for the day ahead.
A veteran of three full marathons and one half marathon, her first experience was the New York City Marathon in 2000. Participating for the Fred’s Team charity which benefits Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, she and her husband were fortunate enough to win the marathon entry lottery. During that marathon, Meredith was able to see her elderly grandmother as she raced near her apartment. Given the number of people who are spectators – it was a gift to be able to share a hug as she ran by. Meredith has also participated in the Chicago Marathon and the Phoenix Rock N Roll Marathon.
Even though Meredith has long been a major advocate for curing cancer, her involvement with the Denver ACS DetermiNation program happened by pure coincidence. She was leaving the gym a few months ago after what she describes as a “good and satisfying run”, and she saw Stacey Hicks at the DetermiNation table. After just a short time of talking over the program, she made the instant decision to “do this”. “I am a fairly impulsive person, and the program hit on my passion from the get go” she said. “I don’t just want to be involved but I want to be uber involved.” She will be participating in the full Denver marathon and is determined to work through her current course of physical therapy to do just that.
Meredith doesn’t see any barriers raising the funds for the program. When it comes to cancer and honoring her mother’s legacy, asking for contributions to help cure the disease is simple. Her friends and family have been more than generous and helpful in the past, particularly while raising approximately $2,500 for Fred’s Team at the New York City Marathon in 2000. She believes she will hit her goal of at least $1,250 and likely more as she embarks on her fundraising campaign for Denver in the next week or so.
When talking about her goals for the Denver DetermiNation program and for the marathon event, she would love to see the marathon grow in both the number of participants and in stature. Having the Denver Rock N Roll Full and Half marathons become a marquee event for Denver would be great for both the city and the program.
When describing why she is committed to the DetermiNation program, she said “the cause needs money and attention. Such empowerment, compassion, and energy occurs in those who have come together and have chosen to fight this battle. No two cancers are alike, there is something uniquely bonding about dealing with that”.
Meredith can’t wait to complete her physical therapy and get back to running. When asked what her goals are? She says, “to be a life- long runner and life- long warrior in the battle to end cancer in the world”. All of us at DetermiNation can’t wait to welcome Meredith. Her passionate drive to cure cancer goes hand in hand with her determination to cross the finish line at the Denver Marathon in October.
For questions on the American Cancer Society DetermiNation program – please contact:
Valerie Passerini
Endurance Event Manager - DetermiNation
American Cancer Society, Inc. - Great West Division
2255 South Oneida Street Denver, CO 80224
720.524.5410
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Plans - Big or Small - Make 'Em!
I have been doing a lot of strategic planning in the last several weeks. In addition to a project on which I am working, I have been "planning" for other events in 2011, including half and full marathons, a variety of trips, and some other milestones. Ok - I have been calling it "planning", but truth be told - it's been more of a mild dither back and forth.
To make big things happen, make big plans. Big plans mean that big and great things are forthcoming. Make time to do great things.
No doubts, no listening to the nay sayers (ignore them, perhaps they will go away...). Make your plans, put them out there, and go for it.
I'm not one to dither or to be bored for long, so HUGE plans, here I come...And once decided, I always swing for the fences.
- Do I have time?
- Do I have inclination?
- Will the stars align?
- Will tickets be available?
- What will the weather be in June?
- But...
- What if...
- Blah blah blah...
To make big things happen, make big plans. Big plans mean that big and great things are forthcoming. Make time to do great things.
No doubts, no listening to the nay sayers (ignore them, perhaps they will go away...). Make your plans, put them out there, and go for it.
I'm not one to dither or to be bored for long, so HUGE plans, here I come...And once decided, I always swing for the fences.
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
Friday, February 11, 2011
Right Here, Right Now
Part of being a strategist and a planner is constantly looking at the future and considering all things that may happen. No matter what the event - a marathon, a project (perhaps one in the same?), a class, an activity, a weight loss undertaking, a college education, a dinner party - I ask questions like:
However, no matter what the project being planning, remember that plans are just that, and that one must live in the "today" world as much as the "tomorrow" world.
One can plan to complete a marathon six months from now, but today, that person has to get out and run. One can plan to lose the ten pounds for some future date or event, but today healthy choices must be made to achieve the desired healthy weight of tomorrow.
Today is always a new beginning and another chance to live in the present and look to the future.
Tomorrow, and all the forthcoming tomorrows are just extensions of Right Here and Right Now.
Do Right Now - and tomorrow will be on it's way.
Carpe Diem - and so it is...
- What is the date?
- What is the goal?
- What are the risks?
- What are the rewards?
- What are the implications?
- What happens if the date is missed? (tough one for an organized marathon or for losing weight in time for an event)
- Can that date be made? Reasonably?
However, no matter what the project being planning, remember that plans are just that, and that one must live in the "today" world as much as the "tomorrow" world.
One can plan to complete a marathon six months from now, but today, that person has to get out and run. One can plan to lose the ten pounds for some future date or event, but today healthy choices must be made to achieve the desired healthy weight of tomorrow.
Today is always a new beginning and another chance to live in the present and look to the future.
Tomorrow, and all the forthcoming tomorrows are just extensions of Right Here and Right Now.
Do Right Now - and tomorrow will be on it's way.
Carpe Diem - and so it is...
Monday, January 24, 2011
Finishing Is The Key to Starting
I ran across a statement this weekend that got me thinking (again)
In order for there to be a start, there has to be a finish
I love to start new things - new books, new workouts, new marathon trainings, new trips, new projects. However, I am not always great about finishing. At this moment, there are at least five books on my nightstand, two more on my Nook, and one in my computer bag. All but the one in my bag has been started, and then put on pause. Projects - well, let's just say I have been working on my office and organizing files for a good long time. I've been starting a diet every Monday since November, but never finishing the unhealthy eating habits that have crept back into my routine. And as a side note - diets don't work anyway. I know better, and my weight loss success has been based on healthy eating and moderation - not deprivation and diets. Why I decided to start a diet each week is based in not finishing slugging through the issues instead of letting them literally "eat" away at me.
Getting started on some things has been challenging in the last months - but when I really reflected on the statement above, I realized that what I needed more than new distractions was to finish.
Finish what? Well, suffice it to say finish some unpleasant emotional business. Finish taking on roles that make me unhappy. Finish making excuses. Finish whining. Finish feeling bad. Just finish...
So, this is not a week of a start, but rather a week of the finish. I won't be finishing all the books in progress, but I will decide which ones to "finish" for now. What I am committed to finishing above all else is the "stuff" that is getting in the way of my healthiness. For it is only when you finish and get rid of that which is "weighing on you" that a real start can occur.
Carpe Diem - and so it is...
In order for there to be a start, there has to be a finish
I love to start new things - new books, new workouts, new marathon trainings, new trips, new projects. However, I am not always great about finishing. At this moment, there are at least five books on my nightstand, two more on my Nook, and one in my computer bag. All but the one in my bag has been started, and then put on pause. Projects - well, let's just say I have been working on my office and organizing files for a good long time. I've been starting a diet every Monday since November, but never finishing the unhealthy eating habits that have crept back into my routine. And as a side note - diets don't work anyway. I know better, and my weight loss success has been based on healthy eating and moderation - not deprivation and diets. Why I decided to start a diet each week is based in not finishing slugging through the issues instead of letting them literally "eat" away at me.
Getting started on some things has been challenging in the last months - but when I really reflected on the statement above, I realized that what I needed more than new distractions was to finish.
Finish what? Well, suffice it to say finish some unpleasant emotional business. Finish taking on roles that make me unhappy. Finish making excuses. Finish whining. Finish feeling bad. Just finish...
So, this is not a week of a start, but rather a week of the finish. I won't be finishing all the books in progress, but I will decide which ones to "finish" for now. What I am committed to finishing above all else is the "stuff" that is getting in the way of my healthiness. For it is only when you finish and get rid of that which is "weighing on you" that a real start can occur.
Carpe Diem - and so it is...
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Reunited, and It Feels So Good!
When any relationship feels like more work than pleasure, or more demanding than joyous, it can be good to pause, walk away, and take a break for a while. It doesn't mean it's "over", it just needs some space.
I needed a break from my relationship with distance events and workouts after November 6th, 2010. Truth be told - the end was in sight long before that. Although I experienced extreme joy working with a disabled athlete at the NYC Marathon, I did not enjoy any workouts that lead up to the marathon. My head wasn't in the game, and that lack of commitment appeared in my performance, as well as my waistline.
The fitness relationship that had been forged started slipping in early May of 2010. The gym was boring, and the outdoors just seemed too, well outdoors. Oh, I went through the motions, and ecked out a couple half marathons because I'm stubborn. I even managed to power through a three day 60 mile event. On the morning of the November 6th, 2010 as I dressed to complete 26.2 miles, the image in the mirror knew she wasn't ready. It was then I knew it was over, at least for now.
I had worked so hard to create a healthy, fit body - and suddenly that wasn't enough. The seeds of doubt and familiarity crept in, and the "coasting" began. We all know the "coasting" - enough effort to get by, to sustain, to manage. Yes, there was the initial evidence of a "muffin top", but it was only a few pounds, and the "skinny jeans" still fit. Yes - there should have been more spinach and less whipped cream, but why not? Life is short, right? All signs of boredom, distain, and apathy...
Why did I lose interest? Well - that could take up a book (which is in the process of being written). All that matters is that I did lose interest, lose passion, and lose desire to caretake the relationship. So I walked away and got together with my old habits. I thought we would be happy together - eating and drinking and avoiding exercise.
Not So Much...
I suddenly wanted to get back together with my body. I missed it, and pined for it, and no amount of dark chocolate could turn me away from the feeling of strong abs and successfully completing a distance event as a well trained and conditioned participant. The siren call of ice cream was over...The desire to sooth with sugar was over...
Last night I went back to the gym for the first time since November, and it was as welcoming as the father of the prodigal son. Slowly I got back on the treadmill, and as we became reacquainted, it was as if we had never said goodbye. It felt so good to complete a workout! Although I am sore this morning from some overzealous yoga work on my abs, it is the sore that lets you know all is right with the world.
It is going to take a bit of time to get back into full swing, but the heart is willing, the forgiveness complete, the rhythm and patterns beginning to re-establish themselves, and to improve and be stronger than before.
The second time around has been know to be even better than the first. Reunited - and it feels so good...
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
I needed a break from my relationship with distance events and workouts after November 6th, 2010. Truth be told - the end was in sight long before that. Although I experienced extreme joy working with a disabled athlete at the NYC Marathon, I did not enjoy any workouts that lead up to the marathon. My head wasn't in the game, and that lack of commitment appeared in my performance, as well as my waistline.
The fitness relationship that had been forged started slipping in early May of 2010. The gym was boring, and the outdoors just seemed too, well outdoors. Oh, I went through the motions, and ecked out a couple half marathons because I'm stubborn. I even managed to power through a three day 60 mile event. On the morning of the November 6th, 2010 as I dressed to complete 26.2 miles, the image in the mirror knew she wasn't ready. It was then I knew it was over, at least for now.
I had worked so hard to create a healthy, fit body - and suddenly that wasn't enough. The seeds of doubt and familiarity crept in, and the "coasting" began. We all know the "coasting" - enough effort to get by, to sustain, to manage. Yes, there was the initial evidence of a "muffin top", but it was only a few pounds, and the "skinny jeans" still fit. Yes - there should have been more spinach and less whipped cream, but why not? Life is short, right? All signs of boredom, distain, and apathy...
Why did I lose interest? Well - that could take up a book (which is in the process of being written). All that matters is that I did lose interest, lose passion, and lose desire to caretake the relationship. So I walked away and got together with my old habits. I thought we would be happy together - eating and drinking and avoiding exercise.
Not So Much...
I suddenly wanted to get back together with my body. I missed it, and pined for it, and no amount of dark chocolate could turn me away from the feeling of strong abs and successfully completing a distance event as a well trained and conditioned participant. The siren call of ice cream was over...The desire to sooth with sugar was over...
Last night I went back to the gym for the first time since November, and it was as welcoming as the father of the prodigal son. Slowly I got back on the treadmill, and as we became reacquainted, it was as if we had never said goodbye. It felt so good to complete a workout! Although I am sore this morning from some overzealous yoga work on my abs, it is the sore that lets you know all is right with the world.
It is going to take a bit of time to get back into full swing, but the heart is willing, the forgiveness complete, the rhythm and patterns beginning to re-establish themselves, and to improve and be stronger than before.
The second time around has been know to be even better than the first. Reunited - and it feels so good...
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
Friday, January 14, 2011
The Wagon - It's Back On!
It's January 14th, 2011 - 14 days into the New Year which is replete with declarations of resolutions, intentions, and goals.
I haven't been perfect these last 14 days, but have at least been consciously aware of what I am eating, drinking, and sneaking (sweet potato fries are NOT healthy no matter what explanation is given. It's the word "fry" that gives that away...)
Today while dressing, I was pleasantly surprised that a pair of slacks that were snug two weeks ago are loose again. The belt that was on the first notch is now on the third. Waking up and being mindful really does make a difference - not only in weight, but in life.
Small changes and small re-arranges all equal moderates losses. Just the encouragement I needed to keep those intentions. That kind of belt is a joy to tighten.
Carpe Diem and so it is...
I haven't been perfect these last 14 days, but have at least been consciously aware of what I am eating, drinking, and sneaking (sweet potato fries are NOT healthy no matter what explanation is given. It's the word "fry" that gives that away...)
Today while dressing, I was pleasantly surprised that a pair of slacks that were snug two weeks ago are loose again. The belt that was on the first notch is now on the third. Waking up and being mindful really does make a difference - not only in weight, but in life.
Small changes and small re-arranges all equal moderates losses. Just the encouragement I needed to keep those intentions. That kind of belt is a joy to tighten.
Carpe Diem and so it is...
Sunday, January 2, 2011
2011 - What A Year It Will Be
2010 is over. Obvious statement though that may be, for me, it is beyond over. It is:
The first half though - well, despite a few shining moments, suffice it to say again - Cancel, Clear, Delete. I'm resolved to think of it as my chance to let go (something I am learning to do better).
2010 - Thanks for the memories and lessons. However - Done, Over, Basta. Cancel, Clear, Delete.
2011 - As with most of humanity, it is with excitement and anticipation that I greet this new year. It feels great already.
How did this new and wonderous year arrive? Quietly with a family dinner on the eve, and with a continued quiet day at home on the 1st. The quiet was not a result of overindulgence, but rather one last day of dark clouds, winter hibernation, and peace before this New Year really gets into gear.
Today - I awoke to a stunning winter sunrise. The icy cold has completely cleared the air.
And in that clarity - things look so bright again.
- Cancel
- Clear
- Delete
The first half though - well, despite a few shining moments, suffice it to say again - Cancel, Clear, Delete. I'm resolved to think of it as my chance to let go (something I am learning to do better).
2010 - Thanks for the memories and lessons. However - Done, Over, Basta. Cancel, Clear, Delete.
2011 - As with most of humanity, it is with excitement and anticipation that I greet this new year. It feels great already.
How did this new and wonderous year arrive? Quietly with a family dinner on the eve, and with a continued quiet day at home on the 1st. The quiet was not a result of overindulgence, but rather one last day of dark clouds, winter hibernation, and peace before this New Year really gets into gear.
Today - I awoke to a stunning winter sunrise. The icy cold has completely cleared the air.
And in that clarity - things look so bright again.
Monday, December 13, 2010
To Begin, Again...
I read this passage earlier today, and completely agree...
"Congratulations! You are back! You are finally allowing yourself to be who you are meant to be instead of living your life according to everyone else’s expectations. When you honor your true self, life is so much more rewarding and less stressful because you are living in authenticity."
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
"Congratulations! You are back! You are finally allowing yourself to be who you are meant to be instead of living your life according to everyone else’s expectations. When you honor your true self, life is so much more rewarding and less stressful because you are living in authenticity."
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
Monday, November 1, 2010
On Any Given Day...
the most amazing coincidences can happen - and when they do - it's astounding the directions in which one is led...
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
Carpe Diem, and so it is...
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